In this article, we’ll cover the safest way to hypnotize someone as a beginner with no prior knowledge of hypnosis.
We’ll also cover how people can successfully use meditation within hypnosis.
But first, let’s simplify the hypnotic process, so it’s no longer a mystery.
To Hypnotize someone, you simply guide them into a relaxed state then disassociate them from their day-to-day reality into their own mind.
And that, ladies and gentlemen, is how you hypnotize someone, and yes, it is that simple when you know-how and practiced a few times.
But there are nuances and a process we need to cover so you can feel confident in what you’re doing.
A beginner’s guide to hypnotizing someone
You must first establish trust or rapport with the person you’ll be working with. An unwritten rule of hypnosis is that you hold off from hypnotizing someone until you fully establish trust.
A great place to start is by asking the person questions.
Since you’re not a clinical hypnotherapist, you won’t have a question form, but there are a few things you may want to ask like :
- What does this person hope to achieve?
- Why are they wanting to do this session?
- Asked, have you ever experienced a tranced before?
- Do they meditate?
You’re asking these questions because you want to establish a baseline of their experience with trance states, and they get a chance to relax while they share their thoughts.
This is a good foundation for rapport.
Next, you want them to see that they can go into a trance state, so you’re going to let them prove it to themselves.
We call it the Bucket and Ballon test.
Here’s what you do. Tell the person to close their eyes, stretch out their arms. Then tell them to imagine that in one hand (You can tap on their hand if it’s appropriate), they are holding a bundle of giant helium balloons tied to a string.
Then tell them that they are holding a large bucket in their other hand, and it’s filled with WATER. Make sure you stress the word water.
After that, just start chatting about how light the balloons are and how heavy the bucket is and wait for their arms to move.
When you see the balloon arm going up and the bucket arm going down, have them open their eyes and take a look.
Having them see and confirm for themselves makes all the difference.
So what just happened?
- You had them close their eyes which helps them relax and disassociate.
- Then you had them imagine which is more dissociation.
- Then you followed that up with suggestions which they accepted and acted upon.
Hypnotizing someone for the first time
Step one Have them do a mental body scan with a focus on relaxation. Body scan exercises are almost designed for hypnotic inductions.
First, they relieve tension throughout your entire body. As this relaxation is happening, they will naturally enter a light hypnotic or meditative state.
This is what you want, so don’t rush it. Start at the head and have them focus on every body part.
You can also have them tense each muscle group and then release it, and this will help the person become even more relaxed.
Start at the head and work down to their toes.
As they work their way down, each body part will begin to feel heavy and calm as they focus, tense, and relax it. This is the beginning of hypnosis.
Once they are finished at the feet, you can tell them to take a deep breath in and, on the exhale, start to relax even more.
This breathing technique will help with mental relaxation after they have focused intently on their body for so long.
Do you see what’s happening here?
The opening exercises are getting them to relax both physically and mentally. You also had them use guided imagery which disassociates them from the here and now.
In other words, they’re already in hypnosis. From here on out, you are only taking them deeper into themselves.
Now, let’s introduce some formal hypnosis and take them deeper into themselves.
Have the person open their eyes and pick a spot on the wall in front of them. Ensure the spot is higher than their line of vision, so they will either have to move their head or eyeballs slightly upwards.
Now tell them to take a deep breath and have them hold it for about 3 to 5 seconds. Then tell them slowly release their breath and, as they do, close their eyes.
Repeat that part two more times. Have them take a deep breath, staring at a spot on the wall, and as they exhale, close their eyes.
Now tell them to visualize a relaxing scene with them in it. This is motor imagery.
Motor imagery is a state in which a person mentally mimics a physical action. They feel as if they are performing the action, and the body responds internally.
Its main difference from guided imagery is that you are taking physical action mentally as if you’re there.
Motor Imagery is also a form of meditation used since the ancient Greeks to achieve trance and even more profound relaxation, and it works just as well today.
Suggest that they become as comfortable as they can.
Ask them to go to a comfortable place (real or imaginary) and have a seat somewhere in their comfortable place.
The next part of the process is where we use hypnotic imagery metaphors or my favorite direct suggestions. When you are more confident in your abilities, you should add hypnotic stories to inspire their imagination.
What you say at this point depends on the issue. So let’s assume you’re working with someone about their self-esteem.
You may make some straightforward suggestions like; “You’re wonderfully optimistic even in the face of challenges.
“Your confidence flows from the inside, so you are comfortable with not always knowing. You can be confident even when you have no idea what’s going to happen next.”
“A human being always acts and feels and performs in accordance with what he/she imagines to be true about himself and their environment.”Dr. Maxwell Maltz
Should you use a hypnosis script?
This depends on your level of skill and comfort in reading a script out loud. This is because hypnosis scripts are a lot like sales pitches; they need repetition.
The mind learns by repetition because it reinforces neurological pathways.
Next, focus on the future desired state
This is a good time for them to envision or visualize the end result or goal they have already accomplished.
During this part, you can assist the person in visualizing themselves a few months down the line, having already made the improvements they intend to make.
Assisting others in visualizing their desired future state will help them see themselves succeeding. This can contribute to the desired result in the subconscious mind.
And getting the Subconscious in agreement with the conscious mind is the goal of the entire session.
Pour on more suggestions and end on a high note
Now we’re coming towards the end of the session. You want to make sure that you guide them out full of positive suggestions and let them come back to waking reality from their comfortable place.
Let’s stick with the confidence theme. You can say something like.
Now that confidence has been embedded inside your mind from your Subconscious, you can just let it grow inside of you naturally.
Even though we don’t know how your confidence will fully develop. What we’re sure of is that it’s growing right now and will do so more into your future.
And over the next few weeks, your confidence will grow and mature to the point where you almost forget how not confident you use to be.
Now, wait a few moments and let that sink into their mind.
Lastly, it’s time to bring them out of hypnosis. This is actually the easiest part of the process. You have a rapport with the person, or else you would have never gotten this far.
All you need to do from here is have them return to their place of comfort and let them enjoy that feeling for about 30 seconds.
Then tell them it’s time to return to ordinary waking reality, and you are going to do it on five.
(It’s not a hard rule, but usually, counting down is for going into hypnosis, and counting up is for coming back out.)
After you tell them what you’re going, just start counting up slowly 5, 4, 3, etc.…
When you get to one, just tell them to open their eyes and come back to waking consciousness feeling wonderful.
How to handle the hypnosis afterglow
Caution this warning is for your ego-personality.
As you begin to work with people, you will notice that they will usually feel elated the first few times a person comes out of hypnosis.
This is the afterglow or halo effect, and it can last for hours. Of course, the more times anyone goes in and out of trance enough times, the halo effect will begin to fade.
But they will always get at least a shadow of that effect. This will may make them return to you again and again.
Be extra careful here many a little cult has started this way, or just as bad personal relationships doomed to fail.
99.99999 percent of the time, you have NO BUSINESS getting into a personal sexual relationship with people you work with. These are extremes, however.
Usually, what happens is you have a few people who become a little too clingy because you helped them feel better. It’s not a bad thing, and it’s completely understandable.
But suppose you let your ego-personality fall in love with your newfound importance. In that case, you’re not really helping them to improve, are you?
So the best practice is to be friendly but to keep yourself at a healthy emotional distance.
You’re not a professional hypnotherapist, but you don’t have to be. Just keep their best interest in mind, and you will be fine. Hypnotizing someone is simple. It’s just a matter of relaxation and dissociation.
You relax that person into a place where they feel at ease and suggest them all the way down into Hypno-land nice and easy.
Anyone can do it, and you’ve probably done it to other people sporadically throughout your life.
Have you ever bored someone to tears? Well, that’s hypnosis, too, just not the kind you wanted at the time.
But now you have the means to hypnotized others if you want, but you may find that you can learn this better with an actual course.
So let me show you what I used for years before becoming a hypnotherapist and what I still use now because it’s that good.